To fit with this week’s theme of World Book Day, we asked our team of counsellors about books they are currently reading or have found beneficial.
There are a wealth of books on personal development, relationships & self-help out there, many offering expert advice, practical tips and with actional strategies, but where to start?
Signposting to books that support the work in the therapy room is not unusual, we may have a suggestion that fits in with your current situation and allows you to explore further independently. Some come with an accompanying workbook which can help develop new skills and think through things to a deeper level.
So if you are feeling a bit stuck in your personal life or relationships, take a look at the list below for some inspiration…
Books for adults
‘Secure Love’ Julie Mennano
One of the best books I have read on attachment and emotionally focused therapy for couples and think it is easy to relate to for therapists and clients.
‘Why Love Matters’ Sue Gerhardt
How love and affection shapes a baby’s brain and looks at how neuroscience and attachment interlink in a child’s early years.
‘Fight Right’ John & Julie Gottman
I found this an easy to understand guide on how to better resolve conflict in your relationship
‘Mind the Gap – The truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life’ Dr Karen Gurney
This is my current favourite and is helpful for people to understand the ebb & flow of desire in long-term relationships
‘ Us. Reconnect with your partner and build a loving and lasting relationship’ Terrence Real.
- i) Terry Real has an interesting approach which takes a scientific/evolutionary stance on why we behave the way we do in relationships
- ii) This expert relationship therapist uses many case studies that are relatable to couples and their relationship struggles. Also explores his thoughts on patriarchy, ‘adapted child’ presentations, grandiosity vs shame and how this plays out in relationships.
‘Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?’ Dr Julie Smith
This is an easy-to-read, relatable book covering the basics on good mental health and how to build resilience with lots of practical tips.
‘A Very Modern Family’ Carrie & David Grant
A very honest and open account of one family’s journey through life in a changing society. Covering multiple themes such as adoption, mental health, neurodivergence, gender and sexual identity, and race.
‘The Book You Want Everyone You Love To Read’ Philippa Perry
A practical and engaging book by the ex-Guardian agony aunt, with a very accessible tone of voice.
‘Hold Me Tight’ Dr Sue Johnson
This book covers some practical steps you can take to improve emotional connection with a partner, covering 7 healing conversations. There is also an accompanying workbook available that helps you to apply the knowledge and construct the conversations for your own relationships.
Book for young people & parents/carers
‘The Anxiety Toolkit for Teens: Easy and practical CBT and DBT tools to manage stress, anxiety, worry and panic.’ Teen Thrive
‘My Hidden Chimp’ Professor Steve Peters
10 simple habits that we as adults and children should have in our arsenal to deal with everyday life.
‘No Worries – How to Calm An Anxious Mind’ Dr Ashley Conway
Explains how to recognise anxiety and offers a variety of techniques for managing it.
‘You Are a Champion – How to be the best you can be.’ Marcus Rashford
An autobiography with lots of positivity and inspiration for life.
‘Why Had Nobody told me This Before’ Dr Julie Smith
Easy to understand and providing practical help on daily battles and processing emotions
If you wish to talk about your situation in more depth and receive tailored support, book to speak to one of our counsellors.
